How do I get my baby to sleep in her crib instead of in bed with me?
Monday, September 12th, 2011 at
10:56 pm
I have to put her in bed with me at night so she will fall asleep and stay asleep. Sometimes I can’t even move her into her crib after she falls asleep. I need some suggestions on what I should try. She also has only slept through the night 5 times and is almost a year old.
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I saw this on 20/20. 20/20 stayed with a family for a week, Dr., cameras and all. The baby would only fall asleep on the father’s chest with Lionel Richie’s music on. As soon as they put the baby in the crib, it cried. The Dr. would not let the parents pick the baby up. It wasn’t easy at all for the parents. To make a long story short, the baby didn’t win the battle. If you pick up your baby as soon as she cries she knows she’s got you beat. You have to be strong and ignore her cry. Before the week was over, the baby slept in the crib with no problem. If you let your baby cry, it doesn’t mean you’re bad parents. You just need a little (or alot) of patience. Good luck. If you try this, I hope it works.
She is still just a baby, and you started it. Your easiest way to change it is give her a teddy bear or a doll that you can put something of yours on , a t-shirt. and let her cry for a FEW MINUTES. She will grow accustom. or atleast peg you for how long it takes you to get up and get here. Or you can always ask your parents toput her to bed in your absence until she gets the hang of it .Do not give up. My son was 3 and my daughter never did
after two daughters who sleptr thru the nite right after birth, i was spoiled, and ill prepped for my son
the boy is nearly two and is just starting to sleep thru the nite now.
sometimes
if im lucky
what worked was walking him to sleep, in my arms, then putting him down
no naps in the afternoon, lots of afternoons at the pool, or the park, or running around the yard
no tv in the room, obviously
staying in the room, near him, where he can see me, sometimes, while he cried it out in the crib- but that made me feel guilty, so i gave it uop after one or two tries.
also, because i was s os lseep deprived after a few months, i had become a noise nazi- never making a peep- i wouldnt even let my husband flush the toilet! for fear of waking the baby up- i learned that things got better ionce i let go of that whole"SSSSSSSSSSSSSSSHHHHH!!!" control and just vaccumed, or did dishes and let him become accustomed to the noise.
what didnt work-leaving him in the room alone to cry it out alone- thats a crappy thing to do to a helpless little guy and it just never sounded right, even coming form parenting books or so called specialists. i gave it a fair four or five minute shot and ran in to rescue him!
regimented bedtimes-thye could care less about your schedule and will sence and react to your stress
stories- he just wnated to hear them over and over.
repeated servings of warm formula-or milk- babies barf all over the crib if you give them too much milk
music-not even classical-playing it while theyre awake is great, but dont try it when theyre supposed tobe getting sleepy- its too exciting
also- never punish with the crib- the crib isnt the place to go to when hes "bad"
make the crib a fun place, maybe with toys and stay nearby where he can see you and let him play in the crib a little ?
have a little heat around the baby when it goes to sleep. babys know their mother heart beat and they love the warm touch.
I just asked my husband how he broke his daughter of sleeping in the bed with him and his ex-wife. He suggested just putting her in her crib and letting her cry herself to sleep. He agrees it sounds harsh, but if you continue to let her run your life, you will never have any peace. Letting her cry isn’t hurting her.
just let her cry 4 a bit it worked 4 me
You have to be strong Mom. You have to put her down, be sure she’s dry and fed and make her stay in the crib otherwise she’ll be sleeping with you when she’s 12.
Lay there some new cute doll and ask her to sleep with her,coz she needs her?
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put her in a crib and dont get her out no matter how hard she cries.
aw shoot they grow up soon enough and in 7 yrs im sure u wont even think so much about this shes not
Keep putting her in her crib.
Ok, as a mom of 2 and one of which had collic FOREVER. I have to say , Honey you need to stick it out and put her in the crib and let her cry it out till she falls asleep. I know it sounds harsh but you did it to yourself by not putting her in a bassinet or crib from the first day you brought her home. Also if you go into the room to check on her, which you should do every 10-15 min. unless she is getting quiet, for gods sake, DO NOT PICK HER UP! I promise, you will have a week or two of hell but she Will get . Also that woman who has a two year old and says it’s mean to leave a little guy in there all alone no matter what the books say, is crazy and that’s why her son is two and just started to sleep.
PUT HER TO SLEEP IN HER CRIB
SHE’LL CRY AND CARRY ON FOR ABOUT A WEEK OR SO
GROW UP
YOU ARE A PARENT NOW
HER CRIES JUST MEAN SHE WANTS HER WAY
DON’T GIVE IN OR ELSE SHE’LL BE SLEEPING WITH YOU WHEN SHE 5 YEARS OLD
Consistency. never let this child zzzz in your bed. Start her out in her own bed….even if she cries….if she gets out of the crib put her back in her own bed. Even if this takes you numerous trips putting her back in her own bed do it. She isn’t zzz thru the night because she knows you’ll always go pick her up.
Make this child stay in her own bed. Don’t give in. Consistency…is the key…..BREAK her spoiled behavior by being firm and don’t give in!!
Watch "Super Nanny" Great parenting tips.
You created this mess, and it will take guts to change it.
Start a New routine tonight!
1. Wear her out playing
2. Give her a short nap in the pm
3. Give her dinner at about the same time every night.
4. Give her bath about the same time. Let her go potty and give her a tiny sip of water.
5. After her bath, let her give "Kisses all around," (2 minutes ) and take her to her crib, and tuck her in.
6. READ to her EVERY night for about 10-15 minutes. Talk quietly and be nice. DO NOT PICK HER UP, no matter what.!!
7. Say good night, turn on th enight light ,and turn foff the light and leave.
8 She will howl for a while-let her. After a few minutes, go in, lay her back down, say good night, and leave again. REPEAT<
DO NOT PICK HER UP! Do not let her get out of bed!
9. Do this every night like clockwork and soon she will get it.
10. Right before you go to bed, check on her, but don’t touch her.
11. Get her up 12 hours after you 1st put her down.
12 REPEAT
Try to remember who is the adult and who is the child. Give your child boundaries from the get-go. She looks to you for guidance in a confusing world. You will be glad you did, when she is 13.
How does she nap, during the day?
Can you mimic the same environment in her sleep area, at nite?
I never had this kind of a problem when raising my 5 . . .
Can’t be any further help with suggestions. . .
Best wishes to you, whatever you try!!!
put her in the crib…you’ve obviously spoiled her for too long, now you’ve gotta get tough.
Leave the baby in their crib….
im in the same position my daughter is 10 months and she sleeps with me everynight i tried laying her in her crib she ont go for it i would say just lie the baby in the crib close the door do that a couple of night and see what that does im doing that now and it seems to be working for now good luck
I know they say don’t have pillows in the crib when the babies are in there, but if the child is almost one, then they aren’t that small. So here’s what you do, when she’s in your bed going to sleep, put her to sleep on a pillow and when she’s asleep move the pillow and her into the crib, position the pillow so that it feels like your in the bed with her, a stuffed animal may be used as well. I did this with my daughter, neices and nephews. When you lay her down, she may whine a little, but pat the pillow to pat her back to sleep, and then when she’s in a deep enough sleep, you can move the pillow.
You have to learn that a baby crying does not ALWAYS mean it is in trouble. Babies can be emotionally manipulative. Albeit, not intentionally, but they have their wants, which do not always coincide with yours. My advice? Put her in her crib. Let her cry. If it lasts more than 15 mins. go get her. Do it again tomorrow. My experience with both my daughters was that they adjusted within two – three nights. DON’T do this until they are 6-8 months or so.
All kids are different at sleeping through the night. It just takes time. As for the going to sleep thing. Put her there at bed time and it might be hard but she’s gonna cry and that tells her that she cannot come sleep with you. Eventually she will fall asleep. keep doing this and she’ll sleep no prob in her crib.
well sadly you have trained her to only feel secure when she is in bed with you. it will be hard but you have to be firm for several nights continue to keep putting her in her crib, she will obviously cry bloody murder, but after a few minutes go and and comfort her and then leave again, Gradually increase the time between each visit in to see her with less and less contact but still reassurance. in time through exhaustion she will fall asleep on her own, after a few nights of this she will realize that she no longer has the power.
My mom used to put us in the crib and leave us there even if we cried for an hour. It will be hard at first, but she will learn, and you will be happy when she does.
Here’s what finally worked for me — put the baby in her crib and see if she’ll fall asleep on her own. You don’t know it won’t work until you give it a fair try. Don’t leave her in there forever to cry and cry. Even the doctor who originally suggested that (Ferber) now says it’s bad.
If she still won’t sleep, try staying in there with her until she starts to settle down. If you’re there and you can talk calmly to her without picking her up, eventually she’ll fall asleep. Sooner or later she’ll get the idea and you’ll be able to leave earlier and earlier until she’s all right being in there without you.
Next time start right away — it’s a LOT easier to put them in the crib from the beginning than it is to get them back there.
You’ll have to let her cry it out for a while till she gets used to it. It is the best thing to do for her though. I am a strong advocate of children sleeping in their own bed alone. They learn to self soothe and learn independance. When my son was about 4 he decided he wanted to sleep with me, so I would lay with him in his bed till he was asleep then slip out. After awhile he started going back to sleep alone. My kids have both always slept in their beds alone.
I had the same problem! I put her baby bed right beside mine with the side rail taken off. That way she thought she was in my bed and I laid my arm near her so she could smell and feel me. As she started to be comfortable in her crib and go to sleep on her own. I put the rail back on (but still beside my bed). Then gradually put the rail up and pushed the bed away from mine. Then she finally slept in her own crib. It takes some time but it has worked on 2 of mine and I have 4 kids. Good luck I hope this helps.
You have got to break it now if you dont it will only get worse I went to work when my son was 1 up until then he slept fine in his crib he would fuss alittle but I diddnt give in to him as soon as i went to work I worked 3rd shift my husband allowed him to sleep in the bed with him now he is 3 and still in our bed its horrible!
You’re going to have to put her in the crib and let her tough it out. It’s going to be difficult for you, but it can be done.
Put her to bed in the crib late, after a long hard day of playing and with a full tummy. She’ll probably object, but sleepiness will eventually win out. Don’t let her see you or she’ll continue her fight to be in your bed.
My oldest was like this at a year. I had a couple nights of her crying and then she finally accepted that her bed was where she had to sleep. It’d be best to teach her now or she’ll never let you sleep in peace.
This happens. Let her cry it out (mine were really loud at first). They eventually get used to the idea that sleep time is not mommy (or daddy) time.
It’s not unusual for babies to sleep through the night at 7 weeks and stop sleeping through at 7 months. Been there, stayed awake through that. Hang in there, they’ll grow up too soon anyway!
sorry to say, but put her in her crib and let her cry. She will fall asleep. We had the same problem, and the doctor told us to do this. She will be ok crying……… be strong you can do it.
You put her in the crib and leave her in the crib. She will learn to sleep in it.
It’s hard to do, but that’s parenting; sometimes you have to do the difficult thing.
Perhaps you can stay beside her crib until she falls asleep.
She has "trained" you. YOU need to "train" her. Start by not running to the crib at every squeek she makes. Let her cry after bedtime until she gets bored and realizes that it’s not going to work. She will then give up and fall asleep.
This is soooo hard isn’t it? I wish there was a magic trick that would work without having to go through the heartbreak of listening to them cry. Unfortunately, you really need to set some boundaries so your baby knows who’s "in charge". First of all, develop a night-time ritual where after she’s bathed and fed, you have a loving cuddle with her and read her a story (even infants enjoy this), then take her into her room and settle her in her crib. Stay calm and don’t talk to her too much – this will only stimulate her – just simply say "time for bed" or something like that. Tuck her in then walk out and ignore the crying. Leave her for five minutes, then go in, lie her back down,give her a rub and tell her "time for sleep". Then leave the room. This time, ignore her for about 10 minutes. When/if you go in again, just lie her down gently and leave without talking. Each time, leave it longer before you go in. This way, she won’t feel abandoned, but she will learn that you mean business! It should only be a few nights before she starts to sleep on her own. If she wakes in the night, try the same technique. Good luck.
You should have never put her in bed with you to begin with. try putting her in her crib and have a radio playing softly in the background. She may like the sound of others around…
Maybe a bobby pillow
Put her in her crib, and walk out. Give her a kiss, put some relaxing mood music on, and walk out. Don’t go back in the entire night. Obviously, babies want to be with their parents during sleep time than alone. Wouldn’t you?
Let her lay down in your bed until she falls asleep. then take her in to her bed. if she wakes up give her some warm honey milk.
my youngest brother had this problem and my mother allowed him to continue to sleep with her and my dad , even at the age of 14 when i move d out he still slept in their bed, my advice is to put your baby in the crib, yes she will cry and yes it will be hard but in the long run, its best for you all.
put her in the crib and you fall asleep next to her in a bed. In the middle of the night go to your bed.